Reader Question:

We have appreciated this guy since September. We connected as soon as on a random evening but carried on speaking.

We partied with him with his companion exactly who I finished up hooking up with considering that the man i love ended up being acting so cold. Now I’m destroying my self thinking I destroyed every little thing.

Must I apologize?

-Chanel (Calgary)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Response:

Dear Chanel,

Darling lady, you simply can’t restore a hookup!

Women may believe the intimate double standard (the one which gives guys factors for intimate knowledge and awards females demerit factors) is entirely erased.

But Im here to tell you it’s merely been erased for the thoughts of women.

Most men however believe some women are advantageous to having sexual intercourse with among others are great in order to have as a girl.

Sex with him on an arbitrary evening wasn’t the way to demonstrate tend to be sweetheart material.

And having intercourse together with companion killed any chance you could have got.

Consider it in this manner: might you nevertheless be into him if the guy partied with you plus companion and finished up hooking up along with her?

Female, on the next occasion, go slow. Behave the method that you would like him to act.

Males you shouldn’t fall in love through gender. They belong love through count on. In addition they never trust a woman that is simple.

Sigh, feminism did not reprogram the brains of males.

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